While presenting I Corinthians 13:4-8, Stanley moves slowly through each of the Apostle Paul's love descriptors careful to paint a clear picture of what love looks like when it is "not easily angered" or "rejoices with truth." By using Scripture—an overall rare occurrence in this book—Stanley creates an easily digestible to-do and not-to-do list with practical, contemporary examples that squash the fairytale "love" narratives inundating our culture. I was disappointed with Stanley's book for a couple reasons, the first being its lack of depth.
Undoubtedly, he has provided Bible-based premarital and martial counseling to thousands of struggling couples.
However, his ambiguity threaded throughout his book actually does more harm than good. I committed to reading this book from cover to cover and as Stanley jumped head first into debunking myths like "maybe a baby will help?
" I wanted to apply the brakes and demand a wiser starting point.
If you are not in a Bible Study group, find a few friends who have similar needs to yours, and invite them to participate in the study with you.
Whether in a group or by yourself, this study will help you set a course toward “being the right person.” ~ Fred Bittner, Faith Gateway Bible Study* * *“At the center of every great love story are two people who are for each other, destined to be together. Three hundred pages or a hundred and twenty minutes later they’ve figured out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. I realize that you realize movies, reality TV, and novels don’t reflect real life.
Meeting the right person, getting married, and living happily ever after in a house with a white picket fence, is a dream that invades the minds of most people.
For example, in the second chapter he explains that "preparation is more important than commitment" when it comes to marriage. When it comes to relationships, commitment is way overrated." An odd statement, especially since Stanley nodes towards America's high divorce rates in the previous chapter."Don't get nervous.Yet, the idea that happiness will be achieved when we find the right person is statistically unrealistic as evidenced by the divorce rate, not only in the world, but in the church..