However, those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) go beyond normal self-involvement because of their illness.
People with NPD can be empathic—we know that now—but it is a dysfunctional form of empathy.
The scary part is that narcissism can shift dangerously into psychopathy.
Being married to a highly narcissistic spouse poses serious challenges and even danger.
If your partner is not abusive—and not all people with NPD are—you need to “find your voice.” The research suggests that the best way to do this with any partner is by going beneath the surface of the anger you feel or the silence and “shut down” you are tempted to fall into.It can vanish, jarringly, when it does not suit their needs or they are preoccupied with their own feelings.