Ever wish you could be one of those people who can just make friends the way other folks breathe?The sort of person who can just sit down with someone and have them feeling like they’ve known you for even though you’ve only just met? We’ve talked a lot about charm and charisma before, and what it takes to be a more fascinating, magnetic person.The key that underlies it all, to building a rapport and finding that connection, is simple: you have to be able to make people feel good.It’s called “the reward theory of attraction”; simply put, we like people who make us feel gratified and rewarded when we’re around them.We’re playing to an audience, even if that audience is just the people from high-school that we’ve reconnected with because we wanted to see if they were still hot and/or single.
Speaking for myself: I start talking faster the more excited (or nervous) I get; when I get on a roll, I can give the Micro-Machines guy The problem is that when we speak quickly, it feels as though we’re trying to put one over on the person we’re talking to; we can’t dazzle them with our brilliance, so we want to baffle them with our bullshit.Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even So the first key is to not give someone – especially women – the full frontal experience; that is, to standing toe to toe with them.Facing a stranger square on can feel intimidating; it can come across as though you’re trying to box them in.If a relationship brings more pleasure than discomfort, then we find ourselves drawn to them and want that relationship to continue.
I can’t stress enough how important non-verbal communication is when it comes to making a positive connection with somebody.
Instead, you want to angle yourself slightly away from them, which feels more accommodating and friendly.